You may have a tumultuous and strained relationship with your ex. The two of you may name-call each other in person or to others. You both may have ongoing frustrations with each other that won't cease. Having strong negative feelings about your former partner after a break-up is normal. How you deal with those feelings reflects on who you are as a person and, more importantly, as a parent.
Recently, a Colorado judge made an important decision in an adoption and "custody" case (allocation of parental responsibilities) which spanned Utah, Colorado and their respective trial and appellate courts for the past nine years.
In Colorado, as in many states, the judicial branch provides self-help forms for the court process. These forms are created to afford greater access to justice to people who cannot afford - or think they cannot afford - the services of an attorney. The forms are developed with the guidance of lawyers and meant to be one-size-fits-all.
There is little dispute that ongoing parental conflict is detrimental to children. A child's exposure to parental conflict diverts the child's focus and energy from being a child and learning social and educational skills, to attempting to figure out why his or her parents cannot get along. Good lawyers always address the impact of high conflict on the children with their clients. In December, 2016, the Colorado Supreme Court approved an amendment to the Colorado Rules of Professional Conduct to add the following language to a comment to Rule 1.2:
When people are faced with a family law matter - such as divorce, parenting time, adoption, child support - they often have the question: how do I choose an attorney? Most people don't know a family law attorney already or don't have experience choosing any kind of lawyer at all.
Every family law matter comes with emotional strain and stress. It is normal to feel overwhelmed, angry and sad. However, when kids are involved, it is never okay to put them in the middle of a dispute. When a relationship breaks up, kids will inevitably be affected. The goal should always be to minimize the impact on your children.
Having some control over the amount you spend on your divorce or custody matter is important. Many people do not understand that clients have an important role to play in their own legal expenses and fees.
Did you know that you can have some control over your legal fees and costs in a family law proceeding? Many of our clients are surprised by this when we mention ways to minimize the financial impact. However, many family law attorneys and professionals work with clients to focus their resources in the most efficient and economic way possible.