Halloween has just passed, so the holiday season is now upon us. Divorced or separated spouses understand that it will be a time of challenging logistics as kids are shuttled between homes. Sometimes it can mean that one parent will attend extended family gatherings minus the kids. On the other hand, the parents may even choose to spend the holiday together, which can be hard if they had an acrimonious divorce.
We get it. There is so much that needs to be done and so much to distract us from doing it. However, no parent can argue that childhood is over in the precious blink of an eye. This is particularly true for separated or divorced parents who do not see their children on a day-to-day basis.
Determining Parenting Time and Decision-Making for minor children are some of the most challenging issues that a couple will face during the divorce process. Unfortunately, even when these issues are resolved in an agreement, they can become problematic if one parent does not follow the terms of the parenting plan, which encompasses a parenting time schedule and allocation of decision making for major decisions affecting the children.
As part of your divorce, you may have reached an agreement on financial support or had a judge issue an order on the matter. However, your circumstances or your ex’s circumstances may warrant a change in the final decree regarding spousal support. There are a variety of valid reasons for an ex spouse to request a change in payment. These include loss of job or change in income, the children grow and their needs change, or perhaps one side remarries.
You have helped them shop for dorm essentials, purchased them a new laptop, dropped them off at school and met their roommate. While colleges are often helpful in providing lists to make sure new students have everything he or she will need, there is also a list of legal documents you, as their parent, might want them to sign as well.
Back to school shopping is an annual rite for many that can bring up memories of getting new shoes and clothes as well as school supplies. While stores seem to start putting out their school displays earlier and earlier each year, the first time this is done as a divorced parent can be challenging both emotionally and financially. There are a number of areas that can cause stress, so here are some strategies for gracefully adjusting to your new reality:
You may be in close contact with a separated spouse or ex where a verbal agreement and ongoing communication has worked so far. However, family experts advise that it is smart to put important arrangements in writing.
You have spoken with an attorney and filed the paperwork for divorce. There are a million details to follow but near the top is telling family, friends and even work that you are getting divorced. This is an understandably difficult conversation when you tell the kids, but some are surprised at how this news will affect others in their sphere.
Divorce impacts and changes many parts of your life. Some changes are tangible, such as moving to a new home or a formal coparenting plan, while others are more emotionally-based. Even under the best of circumstances, there may be moments of doubt where this significant change (even if you initiated) can take a toll on one’s confidence.
Having a child is life-changing. When your child is born, you know that your life will never be the same again. When you became a parent you fully accepted that you would make sacrifices in order to provide your child the best life possible.