Sarah Palin’s divorce filing by her husband after 31 years of marriage recently made national news. The former Alaska governor was famous for “going rogue” as the running mate of John McCain during the 2008 Presidential Election, which meant she went off her script of campaign talking points. She met her future husband Todd Palin when they were teenagers, and the two married several years later, having five kids together.
Fathers with teen daughters often lead a precarious and complicated life. Developmentally speaking, teenage daughters are often caught up in insecurities that can even be debilitating. While dad may be a safe zone that is less complex than a mother-daughter dynamic, he does not get a free pass. There are some complicated scenarios that he may find himself involved in, such as explaining the general stupidity of boys her age, consoling her when her friends act like enemies and doing typical dad stuff like teaching her how to maintain a car or shopping for colleges.
Child support in Colorado uses a formula that includes the income of both parents, but factors in other needs as well. This can include health insurance expenses, special needs of the child, work-related childcare expenses as well as certain expenses unique to the circumstances. This formula is prevalent, but some may still have difficulty paying support or getting support paid by the other parent.
Many filing for divorce wonder if they will ever date or find love again. However, couples who come from the same social circle or married for an extended period may also wish to widen their group of friends. The reasons for this are varied, including spending less time with an ex in social situations or trying to redefine one’s internal and external identity.
Those going through a divorce will often find themselves going through a trajectory called the five stages of grief. These are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The trajectory, length of each step, or even whether a person experiences any or all five of the steps will vary depending on the individual and the circumstances of the divorce. One divorced writer in Portland even added an unusual sixth step to his road to recovery: remorse.
The idea of the family unit has changed. Along with same-sex unions, not all parents of the opposite sex marry choose to marry. Moreover, the court no longer appears to have a gender bias when entering parenting time orders or granting decision making. Family law has adjusted to these changes over time, which means issues are not black and white but rather there are complex legal issues when it comes to determining parenting time and decision making based upon the best interests of the children. The key is to educate yourself and plan ahead so that unnecessary disputes do not arise at a later date.
Stepparents traditionally involve a variety of negative stereotypes. They are the villain who showed obvious bias toward their biological children. They are the adult who never wanted children. They are even the “evil step-monster.” However, stepparents have become a standard part of modern life as parents remarry or stepparents marry someone with children.
The 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in 1969 was recently celebrated. This marked the birth of the LGBT&Q rights movement, but it was over 40 years before same-sex couples could legally wed.
We thought it appropriate to provide tips to dads who will celebrate Father's Day for the first time as a divorced parent. It is a new world and chances are that the relationship with your children has shifted due to the split. Ideally, it was an amicable divorce and the process went smoothly, but experts believe that fathers will still need to take steps to strengthen the parental bonds.
We all like to think of ourselves as good parents. The strivers out there may think they could always do better, and that is likely true for anyone. At the same time, getting too caught up in the competitive parenting spiral can lead to doubts in the parents and likely mixed results for the children. Generally speaking, however, we have a good idea of how to get the best results out of a child, but we all can use a little help.