Newspapers, magazines and websites were filled with stories about how divorce rates continue to rise in 2019 for couples who are age 50 or above. This contrasts the overall rate going down since the 1980s with a drop of 18% between 2008 and 2016.
One of the most challenging and rewarding roles that men face is parenting a teen-aged daughter. This can be most jarring when the girl goes from "daddy's little girl" who excelled in school and extracurricular activities to a situation where father and daughter do not want to be in the same room. Developmentally, this is predictable as daughters navigate puberty and the developmental state that psychologists label "individuation."
Raising children is a rewarding proposition, but it is also an expensive one. Rarely more so if the parents are no longer married or never were. Strategic coordination for paying for expenses may not be for everyone, but the benefits may outweigh deficits when it comes to the bottom line.
The gender divide regarding pay scale still needs to be bridged in some companies. Nevertheless, the equal pay for the same work is increasingly common, perhaps with the U.S. National Women’s Soccer Team and the #MeToo movement pushing the culture scale further into balance.
Anger is a natural and sometimes useful part of everyone’s emotional make-up. It can spur us to respond to a physical or verbal confrontation. It can also inspire us to change something about ourselves, those around us, or even society. While it can be good fuel to light a fire, however, it often will create a fire that rages out of control. It can leave a person isolated from friends, hinder their effectiveness at work, cause rifts in a family, or be self-destructive.
Sarah Palin’s divorce filing by her husband after 31 years of marriage recently made national news. The former Alaska governor was famous for “going rogue” as the running mate of John McCain during the 2008 Presidential Election, which meant she went off her script of campaign talking points. She met her future husband Todd Palin when they were teenagers, and the two married several years later, having five kids together.
Fathers with teen daughters often lead a precarious and complicated life. Developmentally speaking, teenage daughters are often caught up in insecurities that can even be debilitating. While dad may be a safe zone that is less complex than a mother-daughter dynamic, he does not get a free pass. There are some complicated scenarios that he may find himself involved in, such as explaining the general stupidity of boys her age, consoling her when her friends act like enemies and doing typical dad stuff like teaching her how to maintain a car or shopping for colleges.
Child support in Colorado uses a formula that includes the income of both parents, but factors in other needs as well. This can include health insurance expenses, special needs of the child, work-related childcare expenses as well as certain expenses unique to the circumstances. This formula is prevalent, but some may still have difficulty paying support or getting support paid by the other parent.
Many filing for divorce wonder if they will ever date or find love again. However, couples who come from the same social circle or married for an extended period may also wish to widen their group of friends. The reasons for this are varied, including spending less time with an ex in social situations or trying to redefine one’s internal and external identity.
Those going through a divorce will often find themselves going through a trajectory called the five stages of grief. These are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The trajectory, length of each step, or even whether a person experiences any or all five of the steps will vary depending on the individual and the circumstances of the divorce. One divorced writer in Portland even added an unusual sixth step to his road to recovery: remorse.