Dating can be a challenge for many in the best of times, but it has likely never been more complicated than when they are divorced with children. While it may seem like more trouble than it is worth to some, people do manage to do it and find fulfillment in a loving relationship.
The world is in a constant state of change. This can be challenging at times with personal challenges, societal ills or natural disasters, but overall we tend to manage them pretty well. Few, however, could have predicted the unprecedented challenges we all face in 2020. The COVID-19 pandemic has shaken the world to its core, changing how we live, interact, work, and go about any activity in our daily lives. Some of these changes, like wearing masks or social distancing, might have otherwise taken years or decades to be normalized. However, it happened in a matter of days and weeks as we fight this virus.
One outgrowth of living and working from home more or less 24/7 is that some families have been able to slow down and reconnect with each other. School activities and sports are on hold, while puzzles and board games have made a comeback.
Every parent has at least a handful of stories about their children losing or leaving behind a treasured item. Sometimes it was something valuable like a laptop in their school bag, and sometimes it was a stuffed bear. Regardless of the value of the item, this can be a five-alarm emergency where the child requests the entire world to stop what it is doing to track down this item and return it to them unharmed.
Marriage is no longer what it once was in decades past. Couples would start dating in the teens or twenties and then get married once they got a job or graduated from school. They would then go through many changes as kids, work and life offered a series of hurdles or opportunities. If that first marriage did not survive, many would get back on the horse, sometimes again and again. Now people or couples wait longer to marry, and some even opt to form a committed partnership rather than a marriage.
Some state Supreme Courts have already issued statements regarding the operation of the courts in light of the coronavirus. Colorado is one of them, but the only family law issue the court touched on was to say that hearings on motions to restrict parenting time and parental abduction prevention will still be heard. Courts will also hear temporary and permanent protection orders matters. Hearings may take place by telephone.
Parents may tell white lies for various reasons. It can be continuing the fallacy of Santa Claus, the tooth fairy or Easter bunny. It may be a well-intentioned attempt to shield a teen from unnecessary emotional turmoil. Ideally, these fibs are harmless or protective.
A Kansas man recently made national news when he filed a motion for trial by combat. His goal was to meet his soon to be ex-wife or her lawyer “on the field of battle where he will rend their souls from their corporal bodies.” David Ostrom came upon this unlikely solution after claiming that his wife, Bridget Ostrom, and her lawyer had legally destroyed him.
Parenting is a delicate balancing act where there is so much to do and never enough minutes in the day to get it done. These demands can make it hard for parents to get some time together, minus the kids. It also robs mom and dad of “me” time or personal space. Most couples complain about this, but it can lead to some parents pulling away, often from their spouse. Unfortunately, recognizing this behavior and complaining about it may only make it worse.
Everyone has their approach to parenting, and often it is in combination with a spouse and their style. No matter how well the two co-parent together, there are going to be at least subtle differences, and these can even be complementary strengths in healthy relationships.