Back to school shopping is an annual rite for many that can bring up memories of getting new shoes and clothes as well as school supplies. While stores seem to start putting out their school displays earlier and earlier each year, the first time this is done as a divorced parent can be challenging both emotionally and financially. There are a number of areas that can cause stress, so here are some strategies for gracefully adjusting to your new reality:
You may be in close contact with a separated spouse or ex where a verbal agreement and ongoing communication has worked so far. However, family experts advise that it is smart to put important arrangements in writing.
You have spoken with an attorney and filed the paperwork for divorce. There are a million details to follow but near the top is telling family, friends and even work that you are getting divorced. This is an understandably difficult conversation when you tell the kids, but some are surprised at how this news will affect others in their sphere.
Divorce impacts and changes many parts of your life. Some changes are tangible, such as moving to a new home or a formal coparenting plan, while others are more emotionally-based. Even under the best of circumstances, there may be moments of doubt where this significant change (even if you initiated) can take a toll on one’s confidence.
Having a child is life-changing. When your child is born, you know that your life will never be the same again. When you became a parent you fully accepted that you would make sacrifices in order to provide your child the best life possible.
There are few things in life as painful as a divorce. After going through an extended period of scrutiny at the hands of friends and family, you just want the process to end. In the U.S., however, our court proceedings are a matter of public record. Without good cause for your records to be suppressed, it’s likely that nothing stands between your nosy neighbor and your divorce records.
After a separation, it is logical to think that you may need to change the locks on the house or change passwords to certain accounts. But with changing technology, there are additional considerations for couples after they separate.
When parents separate and their children are required to transition from home to home, it is important to maintain an open line of communication between co-parents. This can be a challenge for most separated parents. Which communication method you use depends upon a number of factors, including the level of conflict that exists in your co-parenting relationship.
Certain negative personality traits may play a role in the demise of a relationship or marriage. Those same personality traits or personality disorders can also play a big role in how a divorce or other family law proceeding plays out.
Life can be full of changes, some expected and some unexpected. While you can foresee some of what may happen in your life, there are inevitably some things that just catch you off guard.