Being a parent and raising healthy, happy children is a challenge. Throw a divorce into the mix and the obstacles can be greater. What makes the difference for the children of divorce parents is how the parents are able to co-parent during the separation and after the divorce is final. This is true whether parents divorce when the children are very young or when they are older.
As a co-parenting relationship evolves, parents must consistently seek new ways to keep a positive connection to their children. This will help minimize the long-term and negative impact a divorce has on them.
One such example comes from a recent story about a now grown woman who was a child of divorce. Devin Petit, a college student, received a very special gift for her 21st birthday. It was a necklace from her mother.
On the custom-crafted necklace were three diamonds. The diamonds had a special significance and symbolism. The diamonds were taken from the wedding band that Devin's mother had worn when she was married to Devin's father. The effect of her parents' ability to co-parent was clear from a Tweet that Devin posted:
"[M]y mom gave me this necklace this morning as an early birthday gift. [I]t's made from the diamonds of her wedding band. [S]he said although her marriage to my dad didn't work out, they both agreed I was the best thing to come from it, which is why she wanted me to have it."
While the necklace is a very thoughtful and heartwarming gift, the legacy of effective co-parenting doesn't have to come from a present at all. Your children will be grateful for the gift of a positive upbringing free from unnecessary conflict.