Family law attorneys usually have some unbelievable (and sad) stories about what people prioritize during their divorce. Many of these stories revolve around personal property and ridiculous fights over things with little monetary value.
What is behind these fights is a tremendous about of hurt, anger and animosity which allows people to easily lose perspective on what is really important. We've outlined some of the more extreme examples submitted by Reddit users to a thread on the topic along with some advice on how to keep perspective.
Here are some outrageous fights that have been witnessed in divorces according to the article:
- A personal property fight over a massage chair, while easily resolving custody of children
- Spent $1,000 in legal fees arguing over who would get $40 worth of groceries left in the fridge with the last issue being who got the peanut butter
- Couple spent four hours in mediation arguing about the dog's share schedule and only one hour dividing other property and deciding on a vague parenting time schedule for their children
- One person used sandpaper and keyed off the finish of a car awarded to his ex-spouse
Some other examples we are aware of include:
- Dropping off spouse at the airport for a vacation and upon return spouse found house with exactly half of household furnishings (half the plates, half the furniture set, etc.) along with a note on the elliptical machine stating "you need this"
- One spouse demanding a certain settlement and when they didn't receive it, cutting off the tops of trees in the other spouse's yard as revenge
Again, these are more extreme examples and outrageous behavior. However, it is typical that at some point in your divorce, you may find yourself doing something that you never thought you would be capable of doing.
Some things to keep in mind
- Emotions run high and divorce can drive people to behave irrationally and erratically.
- One of the most important things you can do is to find an outlet for your stress during this difficult time.
- Talk to your counselor or clergy or a friend you can trust.
- Keeping things in perspective is a constant struggle but can be accomplished when you surround yourself with a support network that can help you be objective.
If you find yourself in one of these situations, ask yourself "is this worth the fight or am I just trying to make a point?" - the answer may surprise you.