No doubt that a divorce - no matter how amicable - is a stressful event. When you face a major life change, such as a divorce or separation, you are at a crossroads in your life that comes with a great deal of personal, financial and emotional upheaval. So, what can you do to deal with the stress in healthy ways in an effort to minimize the impact the process has on you and your family?
Find a stress relief outlet. Find something that works for you after identifying whether there are particular stressors in you day-to-day life, or based on what may be very important to you. There is not one right way to alleviate stress when a person is facing a major challenge. We've outlined some healthy ways to cope while you are under strain.
- Seek out a therapist or your clergy
- Join a divorce support group
- Work with an attorney you can trust and can rely on
- Exercise with an activity you enjoy (perhaps biking, skiing, hiking, running, yoga or kick-boxing)
- Go for a walk with a friend
- Get into nature
- Grab coffee with a friend you can lean on
- Find a place to sit and allow your thoughts to process
- Take up a new hobby
- Spend quality time with your children and family
- Take extra responsibilities off your plate and focus your energy on your family (hire a nanny, yard service or house cleaner, if you can)
- Work with a life coach and/or financial advisor
- Clean your house or de-clutter
- Make lists
- Take a break from social media
- Treat yourself to a massage, acupuncture or salon service
- Get enough sleep
Everyone deals with stress differently. Divorce involves a grieving process and it is important to acknowledge that fact. Many people experience a wide range of emotions which is a completely normal part of the grieving process.
It is important to find a way to focus your energy on getting through the divorce and to the other side without losing your sanity along the way. This does not mean you will not have momentary lapses. Not only is this best for you, but it is also best for your children, who are grieving and feeling a variety of emotions along the way as well, causing them to need their parents for support even more than usual. Hopefully you are able to find positive outlets for your stress and your grief so that you can continue moving forward in a healthy way.