Denver Colorado Family Law Blog

Marrying for the second time may be the last thing on the mind of someone getting or recently divorced. But there may be a time further down the line when there is the opportunity. Some may regard it as a do-over for an arrangement that did not work the first time or feel most fulfilled when they have a life partner.

However, others regard the concept of lawful marriage with all the trimmings to be a mistake that they do not need to repeat. Some may worry that the formal arrangement could negatively impact something that was already working. They may even recognize that a partner is not marrying material, and they are comfortable with that.

Couples who divorce will often see a significant shift in their finances. The family must now divide their income and savings between two households. This can be a significant adjustment for the couple, but it can be an even bigger adjustment for the kids if they have a share a bedroom at dad’s apartment or mom’s “new” car is smaller or older than her old one.

Talking about money with loved ones can be difficult, particularly when there is less to go around. Family experts often recommend that couples have open and frank discussions about finances, but talks with kids will need a different approach. It will vary, depending on their ages. Very young kids need to be told little or nothing, and they may not even notice. Older kids will need to know more.

There are countless devices or toys with screens for children of all ages. To be fair, there is great educational software for learning just about anything, readers for books and even games to make learning more fun. But the end result is that children grow up spending a lot of time in front of a screen – not including school work and study, kids age eight to 18 spend an average of seven-and-a-half hours each day on entertainment media. This has likely gone up for children and parents since the pandemic.

Parents are also guilty of this behavior, tuning out and staring at their phone at the playground while the kids play, pulling out the laptop to answer emails after dinner, or binge-watching shows after the kids’ bedtime. This likely is on top of a job that involves constant use of a computer or device of some kind.

Broaching a difficult topic with a spouse can be hard, especially when it involves infidelity. Nevertheless, many have done it. Here are some helpful tips on preparing for a conversation that changes the course of the marriage, regardless of whether it continues or the couple files for divorce.

The initial reaction will likely be for the accused to flee in anger or counterattack the accuser. Either way, it won't be easy, so it is essential for you to have a plan.